Updated: Sep 16, 2020
As weight loss programs, diets do not work! Yes, you lose weight, but about 95% of people who lose weight by dieting will regain it in 1 to 5 years. Since dieting, by definition, is a temporary food plan, it will not work in the long run. Moreover, the deprivation of restrictive diets may lead to a diet-overeat or diet-binge cycle. And since your body does not want you to starve, it responds to overly restrictive diets by slowing your metabolism, which of course makes it harder to lose weight.
Fad diets can be harmful. They may lack essential nutrients, for example. Moreover, they teach you nothing about healthy eating. Thus, when you have "completed" your fad diet, you simply boomerang back to the unhealthy eating patterns that caused your weight gain in the first place! This is the beginning of "yo-yo dieting," which can bring its own health problems in its wake.
My personal belief is that it really has nothing to do with the food that we eat but rather our thinking around what we eat as well as our subconscious programming. We do not always eat only because we are hungry, a lot of the time we eat because we just do not want to feel a certain way anymore. We do the same with alcohol and drugs, we use these to anesthetise our feelings.
I have witnessed others and myself after no longer participating in a specific controlled eating plan and the exercise regime that went with it, I put back the weight that I lost and even more. Then months later when I look at myself in the mirror with utter disappointment at having regained the weight, I tell myself, “Well Diet X worked for me before so I will just do it again. I download the eating plan, I buy the required ingredients for the meals, but I simply cannot find the enthusiasm to stick to the eating plan and the foods on the list, I mean really where is one supposed to buy some of those exotic items.
So, I try another diet, lets call it Diet Y, and again as before with Diet X I have successfully managed to shed the kilos. Only this one I had to drink some horrendously tasting soup or cardboard tasting shake, but you know what, it worked and since I find myself having put the kilos back on again I will just have start at the beginning. So I spend the money, that I don’t really have on the products that did work but had no lasting results and guess what, they are still on the shelf in the pantry waiting for me to work up the motivation to just get started!
Since working in Kinesiology I have found that there are certain acupuncture points on the body that can be used to change our sabotaging patterning at a subconscious level so then instead of anesthetising my feelings, I can feel them and stay thin! I can eat what I want when I want it and I am able to enjoy every delicious bite without an ounce of guilt, just like all my gorgeous thin friends.
If like me, you are a serial dieter; an emotional eater or just have sabotage programming, let me assure you that you have just forgotten how to truly listen to your body and this is something you can learn to do again. Studies have shown us that when a group of children are let loose in a room filled with all kinds of foods, cakes, sweets etc. after they have finished filling themselves up on donuts and cookies, they eventually naturally gravitate to what we label healthy foods. Our bodies are more intelligent than any diet will ever hope to be but we get bombarded by the weight loss industry telling us how we should look and what we should be eating that we can no longer hear just what our bodies are telling us. This body is the only one you will have so you may as well start loving it now.
Paul McKenna has 4 Golden Rules when it comes to returning your body to its natural state:
1. When you are hungry, eat
2. Eat what you want, not what you think you should
3. Eat consciously and enjoy every mouthful
4. When you think you are full, stop eating
The nudge from our body to eat is very similar to the one that lets us know we are thirsty, so as to rule number 1, when you think you are hungry drink a nice glass of refreshing water first. If you are still hungry after that - eat.
I am not sure if you have ever heard of seagull management? It is when the manager comes in, ‘should’s’ (read shits 😊) all over you and then exits leaving you feeling pretty low after all that shrieking. We do the same thing to ourselves, rule number 2 - listen to your body and eat what you want, not what you think you should.
Life has become so rushed; can you even remember the last time you went on a romantic leisurely dinner date with your partner? Not just to get to the restaurant, eat the meal as presented as if you are completing it for some school project so that you can rush home to put your feet up in front of the TV, because you know, it’s been a long week and I just want to relax. Rule number 3 - make the meal the event, savour that succulent juicy steak the chef has grilled to perfection followed by that excellent red the waiter recommended that flows so smoothly across your tongue.
Just because the restaurant is obliged to dish up a certain portion so that you can feel you have received your monies worth does not mean you have to eat it all. Rule number 4 - when your body says: “Hey, I can’t breathe anymore I’m so stuffed” you know you have one helping too many. Stop when you think you are full and take whatever is left over home with you and enjoy it on another occasion.
Personally, I think these rules are brilliant. I have always thought of myself as fat, been on one diet or another because even though Diet X worked, you know what? Diet Y may just give me more lasting results. After all, it is the diets and I am determined I am going to find one that works for my body type. As for slogging it out in the gym, I definitely tried, but then one excuse after the other I ended up having to pay for a two year gym membership that I only ever used for the first two maybe three months. Then beat myself up for wasting good money and felt guilty because I thought that exercise was only exercise when you were working out in a gym or playing a sport of some kind. Neither appealed to me in the slightest. Walking my dog on the beach every morning, running around chasing her? Now that is my idea of fun exercise and I just love the happiness I see on her face when we play.